How to make right decisions? This question, among many others, stands apart, since it affects almost all areas of our lives. By and large, the realization that any choice you make will lead you to a particular result is already a starting point on the path to success in any area of life. However, our task is to figure out how to distinguish more appropriate decision from less appropriate. How to formulate a task, determine the outcome, analyze the benefits and, finally, how to make a decision that is suitable for this particular place, this time and this situation.
Literally every decision that you make has a certain impact on your life path. Sometimes stronger, sometimes weaker. Nevertheless, it’s only in your power to make such seemingly logical, but not always obvious decisions – to drink alcohol or refuse it, eat food that is helpful or harmful to the body, engage in physical activity, or lie on the couch and so on. Thus, it’s only you who’s responsible for choosing your path, either to wealth and prosperity, or to poverty and degradation.
Despite that the choice is obvious, we constantly observe that society is very diverse, which once again underlines the fact that the path to development or self-destruction lies entirely in the field of your own responsibility. You may object that poverty or illness could be the result of circumstances. Quite right, but in turn, the circumstances are the result of previous actions of a person, which means that at some point you didn’t take appropriate measures to improve your financial or physical condition. Where you will most likely end up later depends on what decisions you are making now.
How do people usually make decisions
Most decisions, such as, for example, what to wear today, by which transport to get to work, what to buy for dinner or where to go on a weekend, are predetermined by long-term habits. Even the most ordinary tradition may prompt you to act out of habit. For example, to roast a turkey with apples every year on Easter, or to clean your apartment on Sundays, or to buy food only at the beginning of the month. At the same time, life doesn’t stand still. Time is passing, people are changing, opportunities are changing, circumstances are changing, and what was relevant then is no longer relevant now, which means that decision-making process must be constantly adjusted. Keeping your head down and showing good judgment in the decision-making process means making deliberate and informed choices. An attempt to act by inertia often leads to the wrong direction, to the wrong decisions and to the wrong result.
The more difficult your choice is, the more balanced your decision should be. How much time you need to make a decision and what it will cost you depends on the specific conditions in which the given task arose and the life experience that you have. When you are faced with a choice that can affect not only you, but also your environment, the decision-making process becomes much more complicated.
Before making this or that decision, it’s necessary to collect a maximum of information from everyone who may be affected by the outcome of a particular choice. One way or another, you will have to not only collect information from people, but also take into account their interests, as well as their needs and desires. This approach will give you the opportunity to maintain good relations with these people, because you will show them that their opinion is important to you. At the same time, their attitude to the decision you make largely depends on how much they trust you. If your authority in the eyes of colleagues, relatives or acquaintances is high enough, it’s likely that the decision will be met with approval.
How people should make decisions
If the time has come to choose, then apparently the question has already been formulated. When you have a clear vision of the task that you are facing, you need to take paper, a pencil and to start formulating your thoughts as follows: “If I were absolutely sure of the successful outcome of the affair, then which person I would like to become, what I would like to have and what I would like to do?”. Everything that comes to your mind needs to be written on a sheet.
After this list is finally formulated and written down, put it on the table and distract for a couple of days from these thoughts. Let the described ideas “settle” in your head while you are busy with other things. After a certain period of time, get back to that list and now, to determine what you really need, what’s important to you and what ignites you, sieve these ideas through a filter of the following five questions:
- Do I have the strength and patience to finish the job?
- What obstacles can I encounter on the way to my goal?
- Am I doing it for myself, or I’m doing it for someone else?
- What can I do right now to start moving towards the goal?
- Do I have the necessary experience, knowledge and skills?
To answer these questions, you will certainly also need paper and a pencil. Take this task seriously. Take as much time as you need to complete it. Use common sense, clear mind and proper judgment, otherwise you can overestimate your strengths and the result of your work on yourself will not correspond to reality. Be realistic, this will save a lot of time for you both now and in the future.
In order to be able to make the right decision in any life situation, it’s necessary to approach this with a cool head. Not from the point of view of emotions, inspiration or feeling of falling in love (not at all diminishing their significance), but from the point of view of common sense. If your goal is to put your body in shape, you will have to refuse junk food. If you want to become a personal trainer, you must take appropriate training courses. If you want to become a fitness club director, you need to prepare for a long career ascent and constantly study.
How to make right decisions
Many people, oddly enough, are very frivolous in making decisions, no matter how important they are. Of course, in our life there are such issues that we need to think carefully about. Most often, this is a marriage, having children, a change of job or even place of living. But not everyone imagines how serious and important this process and its consequences are. Too long decision-making process can ultimately lead to even worse results than the absence of a decision at all.
At the same time, making too hasty decisions is a time bomb, which can go off in a few years. Whatever decisions you make, be sure to think through everything as it should. Take the time to carefully think through the necessary solution, and in the end it will turn out to be exactly what you wanted it to be. Below there’s an additional list of questions, which you also can use as a kind of filter for thoughts written on paper. By answering them you will greatly facilitate your decision-making process.
- Will this decision bring me closer to my dream, or it will push me off?
- Do I make this decision on my own or under pressure of third parties?
- How the decision in one way or another will affect my family members?
- Do I need to violate my worldviews or principles in order to make a decision?
- What would I feel if the outcome of the decision appeared in tomorrow’s newspaper?
As you can see, the process of making right decisions is not some secret technique for performing magical rituals, but simply consists in carefully considering and weighing all the pro’s and con’s, plus asking yourself quite logical questions. For those who are still looking for a secret, I focus attention on questions. Asking yourself questions is very important. You can either conduct a dialogue with yourself, or give these questions to the person who will ask them to you and together you can discuss everything that interests you and come to a logical conclusion. Any answer to the question must be criticized in order to thereby provoke a backlash in the form of a logical justification for the expediency of the choice. If this justification is constructive, considered, balanced and fits into the logical framework of this particular task, it’s likely that you have already mastered the art of making right decisions.
Author – Felix Palmer